9 Keys To Help Make Good Habits Stick

When it comes to stopping bad habits and creating positive ones, the "what to do" is often much easier than the "how to do". Our best efforts to apply will power can be thwarted by more urgent priorities or by unforeseen change that is an inevitable part of life.

The challenge is that negative habits are often rooted deeply, and stepping into positive change can be a confusing and frustrating ordeal. Because I continue to study and practice this subject so deeply I am motivated to share what I have learned. Consider the key steps outlined below and move more effectively into positive change.

CONNECT TO THE WHY

Why exercise? Why eat healthfully? Why achieve material success? The difficulty for me early on was that I could not connect deeply enough to the "WHY". I already knew how to "succeed" and "achieve". However, I had not yet connected that success and achievement with reasons that were lasting. Find reasons to step into constant positive change that are so powerful that they will carry you through any joy or sorrow. Find reasons so powerful that they will inspire you to strengthen good habits throughout an entire lifetime.

KNOW WHAT A GOOD HABIT IS

Once you connect to the "WHY", the next step is to make certain that you know what a good habit is. Does your nutritional plan come from Cosmo? Does your exercise plan come from GQ? My experience is that an authentic spiritual teacher is the best guide. Make long term happiness your goal and find out what enlightened men and women say about exercise, nutrition, and vocation.

CREATE A VERY CLEAR PICTURE

Visualize a new habit as a natural part of your life. Richly imagine all the ways it benefits yourself and others. Feel the truth of it in your heart. Now trust that truth and let it go. If the habit is a good one for you to have, it is inevitable that its realization will come to pass. From time to time, repeat this. Allow room for your picture to adjust as you learn more about yourself and discover higher ideals.

IN THE BEGINNING KEEP YOUR NEW HABIT A SECRET

It is very important that you develop new habits for reasons that are your own. The seeds of your good intentions must be planted in a place so deep that nobody else can dig them up. This is the best way. Later, you can share your intentions with someone that you trust. Doing so at this time can actually add strength to the development of your new habit.

USE WHATEVER TOOLS YOU CAN

Keep a picture of someone with positive qualities. Write and speak beneficial affirmations. Listen to inspirational recordings. Meditate. Get mystical; use astrological timing and the cycles of the moon. The mind is very impressionable. My experience is that, with the right tools, change can be nearly instantaneous.

COMMIT TO ACTION

Make and maintain positive changes in your behavior. Allow the experience of the body to be in sync with the experience of the mind. My personal method is to anchor myself in some small change to which I know I can commit, but to act in ways that actually exceed that change. That minimum new action becomes my fallback, until it becomes so natural that I am ready for the next incremental commitment. In this way I balance discipline with patience.

BE PREPARED FOR RELATIONSHIPS TO CHANGE

Can you be so dedicated to living your very best life that you are willing to step into positive change even if it means that your current relationships make dramatic shifts? Negative habits are usually tied up in the lives of people we love. For me this has been the most challenging aspect of change. It has required the development of communication skills far beyond what I could have imagined, and it has required a willingness to let go, at least temporarily, of many beautiful people.

CREATE ACCOUNTABILITY

When we make a promise only to ourselves, the mind can trick us into believing that it is okay to break or delay that promise. Work with an experienced teacher or personal coach in regular way. Receive the inspiration, support, and guidance that will keep you going. Investing in oneself in this way is more valuable than a college education and only a fraction of the cost.

PERSEVERE

A life dedicated to continuously stepping into positive change is a life filled with challenge. You will be powerfully confronted with questions about your basic nature, and the relationships you have chosen may be tested to the extreme. However, along the way you will also see the transient nature of your challenges and experience a life of increasing peace and purpose.

Positive change is inevitable. We can fight it, or we can step into it. If we fight, the negative consequences pile up and can hit us hard. If we step into it, we can participate and minimize unnecessary pain. Either way, we must eventually realize the importance of connecting to what's deepest inside of us and dedicating ourselves to lives of continued improvement. This article outlines key considerations in the mastery of positive change.

This article was written by Kevin Michael Kiley, a highly skilled life coach and successful entrepreneur. After graduating from Dartmouth, he helped build three companies before engaging in a profound spiritual search. To learn whether Kevin may be a good coach for you, contact him through his website. He will be pleased to speak with you. http://www.kevinmichaelkiley.com

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