Building self confidence

Lets suppose that you discovered that you lack self confidence because you always feel anxious around people.

Now do you know where does anxiety come from? Anxiety is the feeling you get when you are unsure whether your current skills can help you go through that situation safely or not.
This means that anxiety is a signal sent to you by your mind telling you that there are certain skills that you should improve.

In such a case these might be examples of the skills you need in order to end this anxiety:

1) Learning how to choose the right topics
2) Learning how to get over the fear of rejection and to speak freely
3) Learning how to choose the right words

Now because people who lack confidence feel afraid and never give a try they never give themselves the chance to build these skills

In the solid confidence program I said that fears keep growing as long as we keep avoiding them.

If you kept avoiding the situations that make you feel anxious your fears will grow and your self confidence will become lower!!

In order to become really confident you need to force yourself into these situations you dread the most. Don’t be afraid about messing things up because certainly you will never learn the missing skills until you mess things up first

You have to say wrong things in order to learn about the right things to say
You have to do mistakes in order to know the things you should avoid next time

This is how learning happens
You mess things up
Know what’s wrong then avoid the mistakes you did last time
Each and every new situation will help you gain more experience and perform better

As the time passes your subconscious mind will discover that you are doing well at the things you used to fear earlier and this will help you feel confident.

Now most people remain stuck where they are because they

1) Avoid the situations they fear
2) Fears grow when people avoid them
3) They never learn because they never allow themselves to do mistakes as the result of fear of rejection

In short, making mistakes is the only way to learn how to do something that you can’t do right now And by doing these things that you can’t do you will become more confident and will be able to trust your abilities.

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