Rocks, Stones and Sand

I was reading James Patterson's novel this weekend, "Sam's Letters to Jennifer." Part of the premise of the book is that the main character, Jennifer, learns about the life of her grandmother, Sam, through the letters Sam has left for Jennifer to read. Jennifer discovers these letters as Sam lies in the hospital in a coma, and the letters cause Jennifer to reflect both on her life as a child as well as the current state of her life. In one of Sam's letters, Jennifer is reminded of her reluctance to leave her grandmother's house at the beach at summer's end when she was a child. To ease the transition, Sam would send Jennifer to the beach with a Mason jar to put in sand, stones, rocks and water for Jennifer to take home part of the beach with her.

I was reminded of the following story as I read the book:

One day an expert in time management was speaking to a group of business students and, to drive home a point, used an illustration those students will never forget. As he stood in front of the group of high-powered overachievers he said, "Okay, time for a quiz."

Then he pulled out a one-gallon, wide-mouthed Mason jar and set it on the table in front of him. He then produced about a dozen fist-sized rocks and carefully placed them, one at a time, into the jar. When the jar was filled to the top and no more rocks would fit inside, he asked, "Is this jar full?"

Everyone in the class said, 'Yes."

Then he said, "Really?" He reached under the table and pulled out a bucket of gravel. Then he dumped some gravel in and shook the jar causing pieces of gravel to work themselves down into the space between the big rocks. Then he asked the group once more, "Is the jar full?"

By this time the class was on to him. "Probably not," one of them answered.

"Good!" he replied. He reached under the table and brought out a bucket of sand. He started dumping the sand in the jar and it went into all of the spaces left between the rocks and the gravel. Once more he asked the question, "Is this jar full?"

"No!" the class shouted.

Once again he said, "Good." Then he grabbed a pitcher of water and began to pour it in until the jar was filled to the brim. Then he looked at the class and asked, "What is the point of this illustration?"

One eager beaver raised his hand and said, "The point is, no matter how full your schedule is, if you try really hard you can always fit some more things in it!"

"No," the speaker replied, "that's not the point. The truth this illustration teaches us is: If you don't put the big rocks in first, you'll never get them in at all."

The point of this story, just as Jennifer's grandmother pointed out to Sam in the book that I read, is that the big rocks are the important things in your life, and you need to tend to those first. Once you've dealt with those, everything else will fit it around it.

I had forgotten this point several summers ago when my mom and niece were visiting. The big rocks should have been my time with them; instead I made the big rocks my business and tried to fit them around my business. Big mistake. By the end of the week I realized that I would have enjoyed the week so much more, and they probably would have, too, had I just simply taken the time off to be with them instead of trying to work for a large portion of the day and then try and enjoy their company for whatever part of the day remained. The result was that I simply didn't have the time to spend with them that I hoped--they got whatever portion of my day (the stones, sand, and water) that remained.

What are the 'big rocks' in your life--your children; your loved ones; your education; your dreams; a worthy cause; teaching or mentoring others; doing things that you love; time for yourself; your health; your significant other? Remember to put these BIG ROCKS in first or you'll never get them in at all. If you sweat the little stuff (the gravel, the sand), then you'll fill your life with little things you worry about that don't really matter, and you'll never have the real quality time you need to spend on the big, important stuff (the big rocks).

So, tonight, or in the morning, when you are reflecting on this short story, ask yourself this question: What are the 'big rocks' in my life? Then, put those in your jar first. You'll be much happier in the process.

Copyright (c) 2007 Donna Gunter

What are the 'big rocks' in your life--your children; your loved ones; your education; your dreams? Learning how to decipher what's important in life is a major personal development lesson. The parable in this story shows you the important of putting the "big rocks" first.

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