The 3 Sources That Lie What Women Want in Men

I've read dozens of books, subscribed to attraction newsletters, talked to attraction experts, talked to women about what they want in a man, tested techniques, and have observed many scenarios comparing and contrasting variables men display in their interaction with women to create a set of complete, holistic characteristics women want in men. In my search, I came across my first dilemma: experts gave contradictory advice - more so in the diverse stages of a relationship.

At the start of a relationship, dating experts attempt to describe what women want. There are pick-up artists and attraction experts that tell men to neg (a gentle, teasing insult), take advantage of a woman's insecurities, and advance the relationship as fast as possible. Such people praise themselves as pioneers in defining what women want, but in reality nearly all of them cannot keep a long-term relationship.

At the later stages of relationships are marriage experts, psychologists, romanticists, and communication trainers that teach men to listen to women. According to such experts, women want to be heard, understood, and made to feel special. These teachers do not tell you the skills and personality characteristics that create animalistic urges in women because the principles are counter-intuitive to "good relationship communication".

Pick-up artists and other advisers that teach men how to succeed in dating, bash marriage trainers and the like over their teachings because the dating coaches feel long-term relationship advisers transform men into sensitive, new age, wuss-bag, girly men - and I agree to an extent.

Most men that learn communication skills from me fall the trap of applying interpersonal relationship advice at the start of a relationship. It is not so much what they do as it is how they do it. The men become needy, have low self-esteem and fail to communicate strength. Women don't want to feel understood, listened to, worried about, and comforted at the early stages of a relationship - such "nice boy" characteristics send them running. Women want to feel indescribable urges that arise from bad boy qualities.

Culture and society creates the second dilemma: society infuses disempowering beliefs and limiting norms into men. I don't blame guys for their limiting beliefs about what women want – but I do blame them for holding onto them when the truth is revealed. We are lead to believe women only want tall, handsome, wealthy men. Such advice drives men to feel insecure about themselves, which validates their initial belief. They may get rejected on an approach, dumped by a girlfriend, or divorced from a long-term relationship, and reason through their perceptual filters that their shortness, ugly looks, or poor wealth did it to them.

If most experts and society don't know what women want, surely women know? What better way to get the answer, then from the source itself, right? No. Most women don't even know what they want - and therein lies the third and last dilemma.

Women preach to guys the characteristics they feel attracted to. They reason, "I'm a woman so I know what I and other women want." Just like all human behavior, however, few of us know and understand ourselves to our preferred extent. We all succumb to personal qualities that leave us feeling out of control, confused, and bewildered.

If these three sources of information create dilemmas in defining what women want in men, what is the source of truth? People who have been in trenches through experience, reading, talking, and many other sources of learning.

There are three popular sources that lie about what women want in men. Because of this, attraction and relationships can be a really confusing subject. In this article, you will learn the truth once and for all.

Joshua Uebergang has provided you with a free guide on what women want in men you can download right now. No longer do women have to be a mystery to you! Also, be sure you learn how to attract women.

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