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Joseph Plazo's Articles in General Self Help

  • Unstoppable Rapport In 30 Seconds.
    Stop a moment and ask yourself this: has a new employee ever passed you up for a promotion? How can it be, you query yourself, that the new upstart was promoted when everyone else in the company tells you that you deserved the promotion? The new employee did not have your track record for success, did not have the necessary credentials, and wasn't even close to matching your company loyalty!

    Frustrated with the lack of answers, you attempt to obtain answers from management...
  • Kill Objections With Sidewinder Precision
    It's one of those days. You make a passionate speech. Then, your mood is dashed as the audience lobs contradiction and rebuttal. You walk away dejected.

    Hours later the perfect counter-reply pops into your brain. You groan. Why in the world didn't you think of that earlier??? You could just kick yourself in the butt.

    Stop for a moment, and consider how many times this happened to you. Once? Twice? A dozen times?

    People throw us zingers everyday. We deflate, especiall...
  • Magical Pushbutton States
    A decade ago, I used to compete in Okinawan Karate.

    Competitive karate is a roller coaster ride of glorious victories and bitter failure. There were days I found myself pummeled like a useless rag doll. And there were other days I scythed through opponents like an unstoppable juggernaut. Every punch broke through and every kick landed somewhere satisfyingly soft. (oooh how I loved that!) I would zip around the squared ring like Neo on steroids, launching a flurry of eye-bl...
  • Seduction With Your Delicious Voice
    Can YOU RECALL the last time you heard the newsman deliver his piece and you latched on till the last syllable?

    ....Or what about that rousing cry by Brad Pitt who
    (melodramatically) exhorted, "Beyond that beach is Immortality. Take it. It's YOURS!!"

    ... How about that time your lover lustily whispered, "the Bedroom. Now." Instantly, you felt hot all over; not because of anticipation, but because of her intonation.

    Now, stop, and let's look at at the other side of t...
  • Rally The Troops With Inner Fire
    Many who thrive in the workplace are those bursting with drive and determination. These folks who are motivated by their jobs.

    Every person who works have personal reasons for working. While most work for money, others work because they love their jobs and because experience a sense of fulfillment. Some work because they desire to aid others or to feel distinguished in a field. People work because they are motivated by certain reasons.

    A core reason why people are drive...
  • You Are The Supreme Authority
    Two days ago I stewed in my Doctor's lounge for my Annual Executive.

    I finished just about 6 of his magazines. He was late again.

    Fresh out of magazines (two read thrice already), I began reading all his plaques, diplomas, trophies
    and certificates. He owned many- in fact, he ran out of wall real estate for all that parchment.

    Then it hit me.

    Folks these days heap a great deal of importance on certificates, accolades and testimonials. They seek validation
    and th...
  • 5 Tips For Drop Dead Praise
    People blossom on praise. Though all of us need praise to help make us feel great about ourselves, you can’t praise people arbitrarily: Praise should be reserved for endeavors worthy of singular acknowledgment. So, how do you deal with folks who rarely do anything rather praiseworthy?

    My pal Minnie faced this situation in her team of clerks at work. Several lazy clerks had the outlook that, as long as they fulfilled their quotas, they were okay. Praising them for hitting q...
  • Truly Numbing Criticism
    Truly Numbing Criticism

    While we shouldn’t needlessly flatter we must make it a goal to encourage. Regrettably, we tend only to welcome results as opposed to effort. Several of us condemn much more than we eulogize, thereby dampening fervor and squelching confidence. One teacher who was counseled about his fifteen-year-old student, Matthew, exclaimed, “He never does anything right!”

    Anything?? Now that’s Impossible!

    Grownups do it to adults as well. Why do several o...
  • Conveying Confidence & Magnetism Through Body Movements
    When used in sequence, the head, face, and eyes proffer the clearest indication of attitudes toward other people. Because of this fact, the head, face, and eyes are critical to express confidence and project magnetism. For the man or woman with low self-esteem, it will prove advantageous to learn to cast yourself in a more self-assured manner, which in turns makes you feel more confident about yourself.

    Tilting your head, face, and eyes in the direction of another person m...
  • You Are A Shining Star!
    You can ask some people the direct question, “What makes someone credible?” With others, you may have to be somewhat indirect. Ask, “Who do you think is really reliable and can be believed? Why?” You may have to be even more indirect with some people. Ask, “Who do think is a great leader? Why?” The responses you get to these questions indicate each person’s key credibility markers.

    Once you know the important markers, assess yourself. How well do you measure up to the sta...
  • Extra: Men’s Non-verbal Facial Expressions Can Make Women Nervous
    Why Men’s Non-Verbal Facial Expressions Can Make Women Nervous

    There are many stereotypes that exist when it comes to the differences between men and women. This is especially true when it comes to communication styles between the two sexes. We expect men to be somewhat without emotion when communicating. For women, however, the opposite is true. Our expectation is that women should be the happy, cheerful sex, which is reflected in the smiley-face syndrome. Many miscommuni...
  • 4 Steps To Overcoming Self-sabotaging Behaviors
    Self-sabotaging behaviors prevent you from conditioning yourself for success. And changing those long, established behavior patterns like self-sabotage is as difficult as recognizing and understanding them.

    How, then, can you eliminate sabotaging beliefs and emotions? First, understand and accept yourself before attempting to understand and accept others. You have to take a journey within for personal evaluation. This means looking inside yourself and listening to your in...
  • 5 Nasty Emotions That Could Be Stopping You From Living Your Dreams
    Hurtful memories can stifle your development and growth. How do we break through this insidious mental conditioning? How do we grow and develop beyond hurtful episodes that bury themselves in our subconscious and influence our lives? How do we change and grow so that we can live our dreams?

    The first step is to break the hold of these inhibiting influences from the past. Recognize them and then either get rid of them or turn them into a positive force that pushes you ahead...
  • Do You Feel Like The Absolute Biggest Loser ??
    Perhaps it's because you lack motivation!

    Motivation is a powerful tool for success. The degree to which you can remain motivated and continue to make forward progress determines whether you realize the life goals that you establish. But the reward for being motivated isn’t just raw goal accomplishment. The accompanying benefits of being motivated are numerous - and they can change your life.

    When you fully understand these benefits of motivation, you can make motivatin...
  • Are You Wishing For Something? Stop! The More You Wish- The More You Might Not Get It
    Are You Ready For Change In Your Life?

    When you are willing to set goals, your motivation becomes more focused and less confused in everyday interactions. Setting goals and designing your dreams and aspirations is a commitment to participate in a dynamic relationship and interaction between yourself and others. Committing yourself to be in a relationship with others helps to create an environment of self-support. The “willingness” to define your goals and aspirations provi...
  • Retirement Planning And Why It's Dumb
    Know what? just this morning, before I popped open my laptop, a heretical thought crossed my head.

    It's this: planning and anticipating your retirement is like insurance policy. Never Ever take it as the sole reward to the years of working. Simply, it is a mere hedge against what we all fear at the end of life: becoming so decrepit,that we can't physically mow lawns to buy ourselves a Happy Meal.

    To my mind, retirement as the final goal of an executive is darn stupid f...
  • What You Didn't Know About The Law Of Attraction
    Imagine for a moment that it’s Monday. The alarm clock rings at six. It’s like a thunderclap cutting through the haze of yesterday’s white whine and three hours worth of Friend’s rerun.

    So you get up… and accidentally bang your knee on the bedpost. Dark murderous thoughts fire across your neurons as you amble to the bathroom where you stub your toe.

    Bam. Suddenly everything and everyone is public enemy number one.

    You snarl at the wife handing you eggs.

    You froth ...