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  • Dealing With Criticism And Difference In Opinion
    Why this is important

    We often become emotionally disturbed during a disagreement, or an argument, or when someone criticizes us or disagrees with us. In such cases our personality usually feels hurt, demeaned and in danger.

    When we feel this way, we destroy our own happiness, clarity and health and often behave in ways which we later regret.

    A simple technique for gaining clarity is to:

    1. Remember that concerning criticism, there are two possibilities:

    a. The...
  • The River Grasses
    Have you ever sat by a river and watched the mesmerizingly graceful movement of the river grasses, which surrender themselves completely to the flow of the river?

    At their base they are firmly attached to a rock on the riverbed. If they were not securely attached in this way, they would be carried away by the current and would perish.

    The upper part of these grasses has absolutely no resistance and is thus free to flow in an infinite variety of movements caused by ...
  • Loving Those Who Are Behave Egotistically Or Are Cold And Unfeeling
    Why do we lose our love when others are behaving egotistically? What is the danger for us? We might answer that it is natural not to love an egotistical person. But what is our danger here? Are we losing self-worth, security, freedom, control or pleasure? Perhaps we are offended by our own egotism that reflects in the others' behavior?

    If the others were five years old, would we be offended and outraged by their egotistical behavior? Or would we continue to love them, whil...
  • Loving Those Who Seek To Suppress And Control Us.
    We lose our love for those who want to control, suppress or use us when we believe that:

    a. Others want to control me.
    b. I must do what others want in order to have their love and be safe.
    c. I am in danger if I do not do what others want.
    d. I cannot love someone who does not do what I want and thus others will not love me if I do not do what they want.
    e. I am the victim.
    f. I will not be a good person if I say no.
    g. I am weak and cannot protect myself.
    h. ...
  • Self-acceptance And Self-improvement
    The first grader

    Perhaps the example of children in grade school will help us to understand this. These children in the first grade do not reject themselves because they are not in a higher grade, or because they do not know as much, or are not as capable as those children in the higher grades. They accept themselves as they are, and are happy with themselves with their present level of abilities and knowledge.

    Yet, no child would accept remaining in the same grade the ...
  • How We Create Our Personal Reality
    In order to be able to love purely and steadily we need to understand how our reality is created A major obstacle to pure and steady love is our confusion about who is responsible for what happens to us and how we feel about it. This confusion is caused by two mistaken perceptions:

    1. That others cause our reality. When we believe this, we feel pain, bitterness, anger and hate when we do not have what we want and need.

    2. That we are the cause or creators of others' rea...
  • Breathing Problems - Natural Solutions
    Breathing difficulties can seriously handicap our ability to function and enjoy life. Air is our most vital source of energy and vitality. When we suffer from asthma, bronchitis, allergies, frequent colds or simply insufficient oxygen intake, we are prone to a lack of energy, vitality and /or mental clarity.

    Every cell within our body depends on an abundant supply of oxygen for proper metabolism and vitality.

    Some Causes of Breathing Problems

    1. Hereditary weakness m...
  • Keeping Our Energy High And Harmonious
    The quantity and quality of our energy flow deeply affect our emotions, thoughts and reactions. The quality of our relationships, productivity, creativity and health all depend upon creating a high level of harmoniously flowing energy.

    The following techniques and ways of life will aid us in building a freer and more positive energy flow.

    1. PROPER DIET: Few of us realize the powerful effect of a proper diet not only on our physical health, but also on our emotional, me...
  • Truths Which Aid Forgiveness
    Some truths which will help us forgive others are (some are based on various spiritual beliefs or Christian concepts which might not be acceptable to you or the subject):

    1. All happens according to a divine plan which brings me exactly what I need at every stage of my evolutionary process in order to learn the next lesson.

    2. Others are simply actors in my life drama, the script of which I write daily.

    3. Others are the hands of the divine showing me the direction i...
  • Manifesting Our Inner Potential
    Self Limiting Elephants

    Elephants born in captivity are restrained by a chain that attaches one leg to a metal spike driven into the ground. This prevents them from roaming. They become accustomed to the fact that, as long as the chain and spike are next to them, they are unable to move.

    As they grow older, their minds become programmed. When they see the spike and chain, they "believe" and accept that they will not be able to move. They become so conditioned that when ...
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